I went out for lunch with my friend that day, it was then that I know that my friend had trick me about a course he was going, (the course is suppose to be later, he told me some date earlier). It was really a bit annoying knowing the fact that I had been tricked and enforcing myself to go on vegetarian these few days just to ensure his safety (I was hoping going on vegetarian could accumulate some merits for him). But knowing that he is well makes me feel more at ease that being annoyed. One of the more touching thing is that when we go for lunch, he ordered my food for me (it’s minced pork noodles). I am really very touch by the actions, he rarely did that for me, I am really touched. Despite I was on vegetarian that day, I still ate that bowl of noodles.
We went for dinner and movie that night also. Dinner was “Fish & Co.” and we went to watch “Stardust” (I strongly recommend this movie!). It’s donkey years since we last watch a movie together. It really brighten up one’s day watching a movie with a friend whom you are not able to contact for a long time. Maybe, it’s the movie itself that makes me feel happy also. The movie is so touching and humorous. One of the best thing I learn from the movie is that love is unconditional giving. I guess I have always neglected this important point in my life, providing friend with a conditional love. I believe I have not been giving enough for such a good friend and constantly expecting him follow the route I think it’s the safest for him. But little did I notice that this is conditional love. What a friend should do is not to stop your friend from doing what he desire, but to always be behind them and give them the full support that they need. I guess starting from today, I will start learning what is unconditional love and practice it. It's really a memorable day, I just hope I will remember this day forever.
Hi lonely_tiger,
ReplyDeleteTo love unconditionally is to give and expect nothing in return. You were hoping for your friend to listen to you and do what you want him/her to do, cause you think that is good for him/her - that I think is unconditional love. You hope for the best for him, prayed for his safety, you did what you think was good for him, you wasn't expecting him to give you anything in return. The only thing you were hoping for, was for him to do what you wanted him to do, which was to go the safer path. Though that may not be the path he desires, but that was, in your opinion, the safer and better path for him. Your care and concern for your friend, I felt, is like that of a parent. You are already giving him your unconditional love. :)
well...but i believe that what i think is good for him, might not be actually good for him. It might be just be our selfish thought that we assume that is good for him. Hence the best thing to do is perhaps to give a full support and absolutely no demands. i hope i am not wrong:)
ReplyDeleteat least you had his best tots in mind...sometimes, people make wrong decisions too. If your friend makes a wrong decision, are you still going to give him your full support without demand? I doubt you will/should...:P
ReplyDeleteWell… I am not too sure either. I feel that perhaps the most ideal thing is to inform him that there’s another route which might be better or right. But I should not force him to take that route, and if he fails in the route he takes, and he needs me, then I should be there to give everything I can. What do you think of this?
ReplyDeleteAlthough this is the most ideal thing that a friend should do, but sadly, I notice, I have not reach that stage where I can allow my friend (and myself) to make decisions freely.
hi lonely tiger
ReplyDeletewhy are you lonely? you shouldn't be! haha
must be happy! :P
anw, jiayou for exams ya :)